5 Ways to Get Your Partner on Board With Your New Diet
In every relationship disagreements are inevitable, and when it comes to food choices there is a multitude of differing opinions. You may be interested in eating vegetarian, or paleo, or plant-based, or locavore, or following one of the other various food philosophies. But maybe your significant other has no interest in that whatsoever.
You and your partner can still thrive in spite of these differences. Here are five tips on how to communicate when your partner isn’t on board with your new way of eating.
Live Your Values
If you value your health, you may choose to follow a certain type of diet. If you value humane treatment of animals, you might buy cruelty-free products or go vegetarian or vegan. If you value the environment, you may want to eat locally grown fare. You can make those changes in your own life even if your partner doesn’t want to make them in their life. You are responsible only for you.
Speaking of values, it’s important to note that values are very personal and everyone’s are distinct. That doesn’t make one person’s values right and another person’s wrong. I always try to remind myself of the adage, “Not wrong, just different.” Don’t attack your partner for not sharing all of your exact values. Neither of you are right or wrong. Try to agree to disagree on some matters.
It may be tempting to avoid this topic of conversation, but even if your partner isn’t following your new way of eating, you should still talk about it with one another. Making positive changes is exciting, and you want to be able to share that with someone so prominent in your life. Tell them your plans and goals. Just don’t have any expectations that they are going to change too.
Ask for Help
Making healthy changes is exciting, but it can also be challenging. That makes this an opportunity for your partner to support you. After sharing your plans and goals (from number three), ask them to keep you accountable. You probably spend a lot of time with your significant other, so they will easily be able to keep a watchful eye and encourage you to maintain your commitment.
Share the Chores
You may find yourself feeling overwhelmed by having to make two separate meals or tempted when buying goodies for your partner. Splitting up the grocery shopping, meal planning, and food prep can be helpful in these situations. Find compromises and strategies that will allow there to be something for everyone. Perhaps you can each pack your own separate lunches and then come together to share dinner together.
It will likely be a challenge at first, but with time and practice your new arrangement can develop into the new “normal.” Who knows, you may even inspire your partner to make small changes of their own. But if this does happen, it is just a happy bonus. It should never be a secret expectation. By living out your values without forcing them on someone else, you will honour both your goals and your relationship and allowing you to feel satisfied with each.
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Grace Furman is a freelance writer and blogger at Heartful Habits.
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